Head, meet brick wall

It’s official. Expaining kink to my partner is like banging my head against a brick wall. Last week i showed her a chastity device online and asked what she thought. It seemed promising as she went off and looked at other devices and how they worked. i was excited by the thought of handing her the keys to my sex drive.

Then the next day, cool as a cucumber. i asked her again how she felt about it. She replied that she didn’t understand, was i asking to be put in chastity? Once again, she had missed the point.

Since i revealed my inclinations to her, i have explained one simple truth:

If i have to explain what i want, then it takes away the whole dynamic

Sometimes she understands, but usually she does not care. i have dropped many hints to her, but either she ignores them or she straight out asks me if that’s what i want. As soon as that happens, the answer is no.

Despite this, i am constantly being berated for not understanding her needs. Her need for sensual and passionate love-making, her need for a vigorous fucking, her need for romance, apparently i am blind to these. This is not true at all, she gets what she wants far more than i do.

i recently had a long drinking session with a friend where we discussed life and love. She said that it seems like my partner is projecting her insecurities. i have to admit, it does seem like that.

*My partner cheated on me for an extended period and every time i talk to a woman, i must be cheating too.

*My partner does not give me what i crave sexually, i get accused of not meeting her needs.

*She becomes an ice queen and goes into the foulest of moods, she tells me that i don’t want to talk.

Perhaps this is just women in general, but it seems insane to me.